Deep & Vulnerable Questions for Couples

What's a fear or insecurity you hold that you rarely talk about, and how does it affect you?

What's a dream you're afraid to say out loud, and what's one small step you could take to make it real?

Is there a part of your personality that you've hidden from me?

What is a 'should' you carry that you wish you could let go of?

When do you feel the most emotionally distant from me?

What is a hard lesson you've learned about love, either from our relationship or a past one?

How did your family's way of handling conflict shape your own?

What is one thing you're struggling to forgive yourself for?

In what ways do you feel you're not living up to your own potential?

What is a moment in our relationship where you felt truly seen and understood?

What is a recurring argument we have that you think is about something deeper than what we're saying?

What is a need you have that you're afraid to voice?

If you could go back and change one decision in your life, what would it be?

What is a time you felt I didn't protect you or our relationship?

What is a belief you hold that you think I would disagree with?

What is a part of your past that you feel still has a hold on you?

What is a way I can make you feel more desired and appreciated?

What is a time you felt you had to put on a 'brave face' for me?

What is a hope you have for us in the next five years that you haven't shared?

What is a fear you have about us in the next five years that you haven't shared?

What is something you admire about me that you think I don't see in myself?

What is a time you felt I didn't trust you?

What is a time you felt you didn't trust me?

What is a way you feel we could be better partners in public?

What is a way you feel we could be better partners in private?

What is a part of your daily life you wish I was more involved in?

What is a part of your daily life you wish I was less involved in?

What is a thing you've learned about yourself from being in this relationship?

What is a thing you think I've learned about myself from being in this relationship?

What is a way you feel we are not on the same page about our future?

What is a way you feel we are perfectly aligned on our future?

What is a thing you would like to apologize to me for?

What is a thing you would like me to apologize to you for?

What is a time you felt I didn't take your feelings seriously?

What is a time you felt I took your feelings very seriously?

What is a way you feel we could improve our emotional intimacy?

What is a way you feel we could improve our physical intimacy?

What is a thing you are afraid to fail at?

What is a thing you are proud of that you don't think I fully appreciate?

What is a way you feel you are a difficult person to be in a relationship with?

What is a way you feel I am a difficult person to be in a relationship with?

What is a thing you would like to do with me that we've never done?

What is a place you would like to go with me that we've never been?

What is a conversation you've been avoiding with me?

What is a thing you would like to hear me say more often?

What is a thing you would like to say to me more often?

What is a way you feel you are not being a good partner to me?

What is a way you feel I am not being a good partner to you?

What is a thing you would like to change about our home life?

What is a thing you love about our home life?

What is a way you feel we could be more of a team?

What is a way you feel we are already a great team?

What is a thing you are afraid of us becoming?

What is a thing you are excited for us to become?

What is a way you feel you are not being honest with yourself in our relationship?

What is a way you feel I am not being honest with myself in our relationship?

What is a thing you would like to learn from me?

What is a thing you would like to teach me?

What is a way you feel you are not taking care of yourself?

What is a way you feel I am not taking care of myself?

What is a thing you would like to create with me?

What is a thing you would like to destroy with me?

What is a way you feel you are not being a good friend to yourself?

What is a way you feel I am not being a good friend to myself?

What is a thing you would like to be remembered for by me?

What is a thing you would like to be remembered for by the world?

What is a way you feel you are not living your life to the fullest?

What is a way you feel I am not living my life to the fullest?

What is a thing you would like to let go of from your past?

What is a thing you would like to hold on to from your past?

What is a way you feel you are not being present with me?

What is a way you feel I am not being present with you?

What is a thing you would like to ask for my help with?

What is a thing you would like to offer me help with?

What is a thing you would like to thank me for that I might not know you're grateful for?